When applying the process from the “Busting Loose from the Money Game” book, I start off by diving into the feeling/emotion and then state the truth, etc. Sometimes I don’t get very far because suddenly a more intense feeling/emotion swells up, kind of distracting me from finishing the original process. My question is: Can or should I dive into this new intense feeling and start again the process, i.e., not finishing the process for the original feeling or emotion?
Robert : I’m going to give you an invitation and a suggestion as to something that you can play with, but this is not an instruction, an order, a rule, or a formula of what you should do every single time this happens. The mind loves to reduce everything to rules or formulas and say, “Okay, every time X happens, I’m going to do Y,” and then, out of self-discipline and willpower, we try to force ourselves to do these formulas that we’ve learned. I invite you to resist that temptation.
The opportunity is to let every moment, including when you’re using the tools, unfold however it unfolds without trying to drive the bus, limit, restrict, or steer it in a different direction. So ultimately, every time this kind of thing happens, you have the opportunity to just let it unfold, and if you stop and dive into the new feeling and start again sometimes, or all the time, or whatever, then that’s fine. It doesn’t need to be consistent, and it doesn’t need to be the same thing. There doesn’t need to be a rule or a formula; you can just allow it to unfold organically, so to speak, out of the moment naturally.
Now, having said that, what I ultimately found myself doing a lot of the time, not as a rule or a formula, but I simply observed that it happened a lot. I’ll use the metaphor of making soup. Let’s say that you’re making soup on the stove, and you got broth boiling. First, you put in some vegetables, then some potatoes, then some noodles, and then some meat or fish or whatever, and you put it all in this pot, and it all simmers together in the pot.
So let’s say that you’re feeling uncomfortable and you start applying the process. It’s the equivalent of there being a pot on the stove that’s simmering with the ingredients of whatever prompted you to apply the process in the first place. Then you’re applying the process, which you could imagine, in this metaphor, as stirring the soup that’s already simmering. And then all of a sudden, something new appears. You could look at that as a new ingredient, and you can throw it in the pot.
However, you might do that. You could imagine the initial discomfort merging with, combining with whatever this new one. You could even imagine a pot of soup like I’m talking about and imagine throwing this new thing in there. You can do whatever you want. Your expanded self will take care of the manifestation, and then you just continue on with the process.
You can go back and start over with all the new stuff that’s in the pot and then apply the process with generic language. You know, it’s not, “I’m the power and presence of God creating this particular discomfort that was the first one, and I’m the power and presence of God creating the second discomfort,” and labeling them specifically. You can just throw it all in the pot and say, “I’m the power and presence of God creating this,” and this applies to everything that’s in the pot without getting specific.
So that’s an opportunity, and again, ultimately, you can simply just allow these things to unfold organically, and whatever happens, happens. It doesn’t matter, and there’s no right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse, or something that’s more likely to help you knock out cloud cover. My experience has been that pretty much every time I ever applied the process, sometimes it appeared the same, but it was always a unique experience, and it’s meant to be.
Unlike in Phase One and sometimes in Phase Two, when we adopt techniques and we’re supposed to learn the optimal way to use the technique and then replicate the exact steps, the perfect formula, over and over and over to increase the odds of getting a result, that’s not the way it works with the process. The process is meant to be more flexible, more organic, and more responsive to the unique situations you find yourself in.
So, as you continue to use the process, remember to be open to the unfolding of each experience. Allow yourself to be present and engaged without trying to force a specific outcome or rigidly follow a predetermined formula. By doing so, you’ll find that the process becomes more effective, more enjoyable, and better suited to the unique challenges and opportunities you encounter along your journey.